Tales of Recovery : Cooking for my Dad, the Widow and Patriarchy

After January's episode of Walking my Mother Home...I find myself a few months later with a new widow (my dad) living in our granny flat.  The plan to care for our elders and the opportunity to heal and love our parents as they age is set in place. The longing for wisdom keepers is real, but times have changed and when the 'wisdom keepers' don't realize this; they are robbed of their opportunity.  

In this deep pool of grief we're swimming in, the sensation of anger seeping in as realizations of deep patriarchal (and colonialism, and religious oppression) patterns are swimming to the surface is real.  Childhood trauma can be swept under the rug and lightened up as we grow and build resilience, but nevertheless, it is real and raw and it WILL rear its ugly head left unattended.  My understanding of my mom's perspective is growing.  I get you Ma.... whew!

The separation we create as we grow up with 'character' roles established by the bullshit system of patriarchal government needs to end.  It gets in the way of love, authenticity and true connection.  

This week on Tales of Recovery, I process some of these newly fresh awarenesses that are crawling in my body.  The experience of knowing something in your mind, to then feeling it in your bones is the way of healing.  The only way is THROUGH. 

And here we go....